What Really Grinds Your Gears?

[ShortChangeHero]

Looks good to me, better than anything I can write.

 

[frogger17]

This is the typical 360 feedback request. I’ve seen a number of them, and this one is not remarkable in any way. In fact, I can’t swear that I haven’t ever received this exact email in the past.

The way this one is worded, though, is particularly annoying. The message and tone is purely focused on “me”, the subject of the feedback. There’s nothing in there that incentivizes the recipient to participate.

For example, the questions that come to mind. If I do this, are you going to be a better manager, leader, peer? If so, how? And who’s going to hold you accountable for that, and how will I know you’re going to be held accountable.

Usually, what comes to mind is that this is one kiss-ass, who’s been given a checklist by some incompetent superior, being able to say, look how I’ve jumped through all the right hoops. I must be great at my job. Without actually having to demonstrate that his or her leadership is really resulting in meaningful contributions to the organization.

 

[frogger17]

Being asked to participate in sh!t like this really grinds my gears.

 

[Tom.]

Here it is again. If you were tagged read this email and provide some feedbackView attachment 586620

Well, It's not rude, i would not mind getting a email like that. A whole lot nicer than stuff i am used to getting.

Americans are very friendly compared to us Euro scum

 

[cyclerdoug]

Thanks for the tag, Trumpybear.

This smacks to me of the car salesman "Baffle them with Bullsh!t" tactic that we used to teach new guys...just keep talking about technical stuff you memorized about gear ratios and torque and they'll forget all about the seat belt retractor question they asked that you didn't know the answer to.

As @QLR1 said, awfully wordy. Other than a bit narcissistic, no glaring structure or grammatical errors jumped out at me.

And I also hate these things. Just let me do my job and don't let my paycheck bounce...and if I don't shoot you in the parking lot after work you're doing ok.

 

[Medusa50]

@Wesleypipesyo

 

[Medusa50]

So heres a few things to frame this for all of you. Everyone knows I detest laziness. I work hard and I am at the top of my peer group. My appraisal for 2018 contained the quote, “nobody is better at conducting an investigation than”. That being said I am not favored in any way. Rather I am treated as an outcast by both peers and surprisingly the person who is in charge of the department. There were some additionsl comments in my appraisal about tone and word choice in email and other written communication. It went on tosay that several staff members raised concerns reporting feelings of intimidation and condescending dialogue on my part. You all know my thoughts on that.

As an exercise to broaden my awareness of the issues I was asked to launch a 360 survey. While I personally dont care what others think I agreed to go along with it to give the illusion that I am willing to grow. Lol

After being advised to draft an introductory letter I asked specifically if there was anything I needed to include and I was told a small number of things which I incorporated. After sending the draft back I was told yet again to make more changes to which I now took exception. If you want to write it for me then go ahead. I am not a child.

Fast forward to yesterday when I sent the letters out as you see here. Honestly this is not how I choose to write but it was based off a recommended framework plus my own verbiage mixed in. I find it funny there are so many opinions about it. A number of you have raised some interesting and thought provoking ideas.

Last night culminated with a series of negative email back and forth with the person in charge of my department. They were unhappy that I didnt use the template “we agreed upon” Well
I got news for you sister. We didnt agree on anything so you can suck it.

After being told to send it to 18 of my peers, most of whom I dont work with regularly I sent it to 25 more people who truly now me. I dont care what everyones feedback is whether its positive or negative. Im perfectly comfortable hearing it from others as long as they are qualified to make an objective assessment.

I still maintan the followng. If you were an expert, your opinion would matter to me. But you’re not and it doesn’t!

Thanks to those who weighed in on this.

 

[Medusa50]

By the way my commentary about not caring what others think is directed towards the losers at work who have a problem with me, not anyone here. They are a pathetic group of hasbeens and they are afraid of being exposed for the frauds they are. Too F’ing bad.

 

[SiRacer420]

So I win.

It was fine. The person in charge sounds like an entitled bitch.

 

[Medusa50]

So I win.

It was fine. The person in charge sounds like an entitled bitch.

She wants to both control the survey and steer the results in her favor. Possibly in hopes that others will respond unfavorably towards me which is fine. I have placed a greater number of respondents on the survey to neutralize the detractors. Just to be clear I do not have an issue with negative feedback. I anticipate it. I do however have a problem with asking everyone under the sun for their opinion when they arent qualified to make such an assessment nor have they been able to demonstrate analytical thinking or objective decisions in the past.

Thats like asking an insane person who they would vote for in the election. Their voice doesnt count.

The persons I included on the survey have worked either with me or for me over as many as 10 years. They are qualified to give thst feedback due t their in depth experience.

One girl who receved the survey wrote, I am honored and excited to be part of the survey. Though I sent her a thank you mote as a courtesy,
I should have written, I was told to include you. We have little or no interaction so I am confused as to what you would be excited about. As far as feeling honored dont get it twisted. I do not care what you write and I will most likely read it just for laughs.

Her communication is plastic and what people expect you to say in corporate America. In reality it is all a lie.