Okay guys, I'm just writing in to take some advice and I hope that you all can be very helpful which you always have been. Here goes, I saw a post in the excghange section and liked a couple of pairs for which I messaged the seller. Everything was going well and although I must have sent him a looooooot of messages regarding shipping because at the time my brother was visiting US with his family and so I thought the items could be shipped to him. All this was after we had agreed onthe item price and shipping price inclusive. Unfortunately, it was a very short time and the items could not be shipped to my brother in time, he was to leave for his flight. Anyway, I opted for direct shipping which turned out to be alright. Now came the point where I had to pay the guy for the amount he asked me which came up to an even USD 435. (Keep in mind that in all of our conversation, he hadn't said anything about paypal fees, also that I had to buy a gift card through which I can send him the payment and can only be loaded with funds once). I send him USD 435 via paypal and guess what, he only receives USD 417.73 because of the fees. Now he tells me that I must send him the additional 17.27 in order for him to begin to parcel and send the items to me. I go like wait a second, what? Then he told me how paypal charges fees to sellers which in one case was new information to me because i do not use paypal much. Anyway, the deal went sour and we both agreed that the money would be refunded, but now, he was afraid that paypal would charge him more to refund the money. So he asks me to send him a request for USD 435, which by now i'm aware if I would do, then I myself would lose out on some money in paypal fees. Now granted that I don't know much about paypal myself, but I made it a point to call them (Paypal Customer Service) and get this issue resolved as if either of us the buyer or the seller would have to pay anything if in fact money is refunded and guess what they said, they told me that in the case of a refund (Which only the seller can issue through his page) neither of us would lose anything, the buyer would be refunded his entire amout and the seller would be refunded any seller fees paid on that transaction. I tried to make this clear to him but unfortunately he hasn't been on since last night. And hasnt replied to any of my messages nor has he issued the refund. I don't know what to do now, Im out $435 and I don't have any parcel headed my way for it and neither will this guy respond to my messages. What's worse is, Ive already spoken to someone else regarding their oakley product and am hoping to make a payment to them once I receive my money back in the card but I don't know when that will be. Guys, what should I do? I didn't feel it necessary to name who this person is because I do not know if he really wants to refund my money or not. And I wouldn't want anyone to get a bad name because of me so.....I just want my USD 435 back, what should I do.